Really? Her first choices ended her up in Arctus Tor, you don't see a connection between that and her eventually becoming Winter Lady?
Only in the sense that if you take the first bridge in stead of the second someone is going to molest you. Maybe because you decided to wear the red shirt in stead of the black one or the other way round.
Her first choices were wrong for other reasons but were partly because no one decided to educate her. It is not just her choices, sometimes things are chosen for you.
Simply this the effect on others is always something you have to take into consideration no matter how much or how little information you have at the time. If you don't care, well, that is sociopathic.
That is only possible if you have information. Maybe the red shirt will be painful for someone’s eyes. At the moment you pick a shirt you don’t care and throw a dice. That does not mean you don’t care if you have more information About the consequences of your choices. But you need to have information to do so.
No, she was groomed, Mab admitted that, Molly's decisions had something to do with that.
But did she know and what could she have done and when? If you knew about the troll under the bridge you could have taken the other one.
Mab decided to groom her, that was not her decision.
It is easy to say everything is because of your own choices but more difficult to identify the meaningful choices someone made, his real errors and not his bad luck.
The mantle jumped into Molly, it didn't jump into Murphy who was also nearby.
Sure but Molly did not know. There were a lot of fae around for the mantle to choose. She might not even have known that the ladies could die let alone two of them. You have to be aware of the danger to make a choice to avoid it. We and Harry and Molly were not aware.
You could say she decided to go to the island. She knew she could die there but that is not the same. She also knew she could help people. The moral right choice was to go. And that was the information she had.