Yes. I'm missing several scenes. Mama Murphy at the funeral for example. The whole Murphy clan.
Harry might have been afraid to inform them yet, but there was not even one name drop in his thoughts.
I don't think she'd understand Harry doing it.
Why not? She certainly noticed Harry eyeing her daughter years ago in Blood Rites. She must have known they were together. And she knew about her husband's job with the Black Cats, SI's predecessor, and Karrin's job in SI, and that she and Harry were working together. I'm guessing, she shouldn't be too surprised, if Harry came to her.