This. The only thing I may give an exception to would be the Fairy Queens and Mothers (I'd make the Fairy Ladies roll) of the fey's court. Then, probably, the Erlking if wyldfae. And the player would get a fate point for the trouble.
That would be represented by the Fairy Queen/Mother invoking-for-effect whatever aspect the character has to represent their Court affiliation to trigger a compel.
And, the result being a compel, could be refused.
(the Erlking holds Court over only a very small fraction of wyldfae, though the above would probably apply to those of his Court)
...Not that the Fairy Queens/Mothers should be having much trouble succeeding on those rolls
anyway. So why are they bothering?