That is another point that comes up regularly in the books, your emotions are not always your best councilors. No it was not coldly and calculatingly but it was what he did.
Yes, but how it that different than any two people who are close, one is suffering and the other agrees to prevent that suffering? Like I said, assisted suicides happen every day and are agreed upon by the two parties. I also think both Harry and Molly were convinced at that point in time that it would be bad not just for Harry but for the world in general to be Winter Knight. Yes, emotions are not the best to go on, but as humans that is what we often do. I don't think Harry can be condemned or praised on this, it is what it is... Human, and Molly reacted in kind. As I said earlier I don't think her situation would have been better if Harry hadn't asked her.
She shared Harry’s misunderstanding but again Molly’s agency is not the point, this is about what Harry did.
Harry was in a position of power and responsibility over Molly. That makes all matters of consent troublesome. That is not just about sex, that is about everything. That is why how Harry guided her was so important.
True, but at the same time the position Harry was in and his mental/emotional state cannot be discounted. Because of that I feel that he cannot be held fully responsible for what he asked of Molly. Actually not unlike Rudolph shooting Murphy, a lot led up to that moment, the attack on Chicago took him over the edge.
That is nice but not the point. And the downside of it is that she held a grudge towards herself.
But that is also a no win, if she hadn't tried to help Harry I think she would have felt just as guilty. And it is debatable whether or not she had been cured of her tendency to break one of the Laws of Magic by going into people's heads if she thinks it is important she do so.
But this is not “The Carpenter files”. Asking for it was Harry’s choice.
And all the emotional turmoil makes it understandable but not right. At the base of his decision was Harry’s refusal to research things he fears. He did not even know basic things about being winter knight.
But in a sense it is just as much Carpenter Files, because Molly also made a choice, freely.
Harry did try to research his fears, the example before him was Slate.. He did ask Bob, who didn't have exactly the kind of reassuring answers you want if you want to have anything to do with the Winter Court. Of course those answers were based on Bob's own prejudices, but other than Lea, [who didn't give straight answers either], the information was, what it was.
The alternative was simple. No suicide and bring Kincaid in stead of Molly. I know about the words of the fallen but Molly did not.
Not that simple as you know, he did bring Kincaid into it, but if that fact remained in his mind, Mab would know and stop the suicide.. That is why Molly was brought in.. As to the Lasciel effect, no, Molly didn't know about that, she only knew about Harry's mental/emotional state at the time. What we don't know is whether or not she tried to talk him out of it. You have to consider Kincaid as well, yeah, he likes the money and all, but he also went along with it. That is what pissed Ivy off so much. I don't think it was just Harry in a power position over Molly, but that given her information she agreed with him about the Winter Knight gig, as did Kincaid given his information.
It wasn't Harry deliberately taking advantage of Molly, he turned to her because there was no one else.