JB obviously had an agenda for how how the suicide when down, his world so his right to play it his way.
Harry asked Molly to use Neuromancy KNOWING that it will harm her, KNOWING that it violated her probation, KNOWING that his death also means hers, KNOWING that she loves him and this will TEAR HER UP inside yet that's his first choice. He chooses Murphy's mantoy, Lily's only other "family" member as the tool. I was kind of hoping Lily would tell him where he could go and what he could do with himself when he got there. Molly deserves SO much better then Harry too.
"his death also means hers". What? It is clear that is was not what happened. Also
1) I have been discussed for year that "you don't invade the mind of others" is not the same as "you cannot enter in another's mind if they are willing". So, I don't think that violated her probation.
2) Molly would be seriously hurt (specially being as sensitive as she is), sad and guilty, but Harry was in a place too dark to realize that. It is not uncommon for suicides in the real world to seriously understimate their importance in other people's lives. I don't think that make them bad people, only too damaged.
3) He did not know that Ivy would know that Kinkaid was involved. How many people do you think Harry could have used instead?
4) Harry is a very traumathized man who is trying who do his best. Molly is an actual warlock who is also trying to do her best. I don't think she is so much deserving that him.