That's definitely something to be aware of and concerned about. Its not fair to portray one gender as raging and out of control for no reason and give the other a by for what is essentially the exact same behavior. That said there is a double standard at play we have to be aware of.
I mean if you had some of these 'raging' characters in the middle of their rant and you magically changed the gender of the character from female to male. I'd expect the other male characters to plant a knuckle sandwich in the face of some guy who went around emoting on them like that during certain high stakes situations. Whereas if you did that to a female character with anyone other than another female character you'd rapidly lose readers. No one want to see guys beating up on gals for being a (what was the wanes world term) psycho hose beasts
Call it stereotypical because it is but its also the socially required thing to do. Whereas conversely if the 'eccentric' guy got a female beat down people might cry unrealistic but other than that you probably wouldn't get the same kind of abandon ship mentality.
With my character I try, as best I can, to play to the man woman differences as close to reality as I can and not to pick on any one side. The genders are different and if you embrace that in an everyone wins philosophy of looking at it, you can write a richer more fullfilling storyline.
I remember hearing about authors like c.j. cherryh who used to complain that there were no books for women out there. She had to mentally change the gender of the characters in order to put herself into the book and have fun. And then recognized in her own writing how she'd gone too far the other way when she observed that there were almost no male characters in her early books and the ones that were there, twirled on stage and left it just as quickly as possible.
People are different. Genders are different. Embrace the differences in no picking on way and I believe the stories will be a richer and better for it than if we try to 'norm' everything to the most common denominator.
The Deposed King